A Poem by Dionne Bowen
(I wrote this poem weeks after my first daughter Nia passed away, I wrote it to myself but
I hope it helps somebody. xxx)
Just because you can’t hold them
kiss them
sing to them
read them a bed-time story
doesn’t mean you can’t tell them you love them
Tell them you love them!
Just because you won’t see them grow
go to school
marry and have children of their own
doesn’t mean you can’t look back happily at what had been.
Look back and smile!
Just because visiting the grounds where she rests
has become your routine which replaces dance classes and soft play
Doesn’t mean you have stopped being a Mummy,
stopped being a Daddy
a grandparent
an aunty an uncle
a cousin,
godparent
or friend
You will always be those things
Forever Mummy and Daddy
Forever your baby she will be
Just because they have ascended doesn’tmean they have gone
Please remember that you are not alone
You carried them
So continue to carry them!
When you are strong enough talk about him or her
don’t let their memories become taboo
Don’t let them fade away!
Allow yourself to smile,
laugh even
Hold the joy that they gave you within;
like a tiny flame
That flicker of light
Please protect it from the darkness
Fan it Allow it to grow
Allow it to illuminate you from the inside out
Let the love and light of your little one shine in all of the darkness
Let it help you to find your way through the pain,
the grief, the anger
SO MUCH ANGER!
Cry when you need to… it’s ok to
Shout when you need to…
it’s ok to Cuss! Scream! Stamp! Dream! Talk and STOP!
When you need to…
it’s
ok
to
STOP!
It’s ok too and just breathe through REST
You’re battered, broken and bruised
And in all of this please continue to love
Please continue to live
YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU KNOW!
and I know that you are in pieces
but you are still here
and HERE peace of mind is key
So try to bear in mind
that although things will never be the same
and will probably never be perfect again
you will see brighter days than these
and you will be okay
I pray that you will be okay.
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